What beliefs are we talking about here? We are talking

about 'core beliefs'.

Should you be a male who believes that "real men" are

rough, tough, never shows emotion and certainly do not

cry then your behaviour will reflect this. While this belief

works for you and your relationships then there appears

little reason to change. If however this set of beliefs are

becoming difficult because your behaviour is perceived as

unacceptable then there maybe a good reason to change.

This is just one example of some people's beliefs. There

are almost as many beliefs as there are people. The

principle remains the same that if you need to change

your behaviour then you will need to change your beliefs. 

Some people are aware of their more problematic beliefs,

many are not and require help to achieve the required

changes, unless you believe that you should be able to

sort everything out yourself.

That sorting out, dealing with etc... usually means

emotional/psychological issues. It does not usually mean in

terms of a physical need. If we break a bone or catch a 

disease we go to a health professional. If we have an

emotional problem there is no logical reason why we

should try to fix it without going to a professional

Counsellor. Some things are easier to deal

with than others, according to the person concerned.

There is a direct correlation between our emotional/mental

health and physical health. Many people would recognise

the fact that when under stress, for example, they are

more susceptable to colds and flu and other more

serious health risks and therefore if you change your

belief, your behaviour will change and you will be less

likely to get physically sick.

 

 

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